The Rudest Engagement Ring Comments EVER

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I’ve received backhanded compliments and straight-up aggressive remarks about my engagement ring. And it made me wonder if you all have, too. So I posted the question on Facebook and Twitter. I truly was hoping I wouldn’t get any responses because no one wants such a symbolic, important purchase criticized. Alas, I was barraged with replies. Here they are.

About a ring with a halo setting:
“It looks like a fat diamond popping out little baby diamonds.”

About a ring with a moissanite stone (instead of a more expensive diamond):
“The cost of it equals his lack of love for you.”

Upon seeing her friend’s ring for the first time:
“You could always trade up.”

After everyone told her that her great-niece’s ring was amazing:
“Oh, I’ve seen better. It’s nothing special.”

About my pal’s BEAUTIFUL ring:
“Is that the one you wanted?”

After seeing the ring in photos:
‎”It seemed like yours was bigger than mine in pictures. It’s definitely cute, though.”

About a friend’s double-band estate ring:
“How are you supposed to wear a band on the same hand as that?”

About a ring for a gal who doesn’t like a lot of bling:
“is that the engagement ring or just the wedding band?”

About a friend’s breathtaking ring:
“It makes you look like a trophy wife.”

About MY ring:
“It’d be nicer if you cleaned it more often.” (Fair enough, but why say that to me?!)

And here’s my favorite about my buddy’s ring, which may possibly be my favorite of all the ones I’ve ever seen:
“That’s exactly what I used to want my ring to look like. But now I want something more sophisticated.”

Can you believe that last one? Which remark do you think is the rudest? And what’s the worst thing you’ve ever heard about your gorgeous engagement ring?

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Natasha S

Wow. I guess some of these are due to jealousy while others maybe can be chalked up to the person just not thinking? This is a good post… we are looking at rings now and I suppose it is good to be prepared for bitchy remarks.
- mereditor
  
  I can tell you that at least one of these was from a jealous not-yet-engaged person! So glad you like this post! And how exciting that you’re looking for rings! Fingers crossed that no one says anything this heinous to you.
  - Kelsey Taylor
    
    From what I recall about your other blog, you made enough rude comments about your own engagement ring for everyone. You constantly complained about how small it is and how thick it is and how you would have chose something else, if given the opportunity. If you ask me, that’s more heinous than anyone else commenting on your ring because that’s a direct insult to yourown fiance and his taste (not to mention, budget).
    
    Also, just a side note, not everyone that makes comments like this is jealous. Peoples taste just differs. And I find it hard to believe that anyone would EVER be jealous of you.
Isabelle Fallon

People are so RUDE! Basic manners dictates that you admire the ring and leave it at that – even if you don’t like it, the wearer does, and she loves the man who gave it her, so why would you criticize? Jealousy does horrid things to people! I have seen rings I liked and ones I didn’t – but without exception, I admired them all because I would never belittle such an important symbol of my friend’s commitment.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=500796192 Stacy Caroline Breland

When my fiance and I were looking at settings (we had a diamond already, a perfect 1/3 carat we inherited from his family), the jeweler tried to talk us into something more than just a simple setting (very similar to the picture on this post!) and when we wouldn’t be budged from our budget, he said “Oh well, maybe you can have it reset one day into something bigger.” I wasn’t really offended because it’s sort of his job to upsell. But I was encouraged by the woman who came over to us after the jeweler left us alone and told us not to go into debt over a ring, to buy what we could afford, because we’d treasure it no matter what it looked like. She showed us her small, simple ring and said that she’d never dream of changing it! Thought I’d offer some positive comments to counteract the negative!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Meagan-Saunders/500765392 Meagan Saunders

I posted a picture of my ring, which had to be sized, on Facebook. Somebody commented and said while I’m at it, I should resize/upgrade the diamond too. I instantly deleted it, and deleted that person from my friends list. My .31 Carat diamond is PERFECT for me, and obviously that person has no idea WTF they were talking about.
whitewolf

My ring received nothing but compliments in person and in pictures. My fiancé had also become verbally abusive and controlling, so I gave back his ring and left him. I received this response about the breakup from a coworker: “Ohhh! Your beautiful ring…”

If that doesn’t show that the ring’s appearance does not equate the quality of a relationship, I don’t know what does.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=930367 Alexandra Frydman

I received a beautiful solitaire thats in an elegant band and a family friend of his said “oh thats the fashion nowadays…hmmm”
http://www.technoinsta.com/ Sanjib Saha

Haha true! Peoply specially women find now other work except commenting on others ring, jewellery, dress up, make up and what not! Best thing to do is to Ignore and neglect rude comments and copliment the good ones
http://profile.yahoo.com/C4SWA4UIX44JXU45HL2YWW4VTU becky

My mother told me this, in front of my fiance at the time: “You can always swap out the stone for the one in my old ring, I think mine is bigger”
… the stone he got me was 1/2 carat, very good clarity, colorless, certified, and cost 1,800 just for the diamond.
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=810839300 Shannon Ledger

How about “Awww… did he get it to look like Kate Middleton’s?”
My fiance didn’t even know who Kate Middleton WAS!
- Ellissi Rings
  
  Same here. Who was Kate Middleton. But i agree i love Diamonds. and specially sapphire diamonds
Dianne Dever

I did ask my friend if the ring she got was the ring she wanted, but her fiance wanted her to give him 3 ring choices and he loved her least favorite choice but chose her favorite.

My sister always compares our rings. I have a 3 stone ring that equals a carat while she has one large stone that is about a carat, and she always comments on it.
Breccia

the worst I’ve ever heard (or rather been told, as I wasn’t there) is the mother of a former beauty queen commenting on a young woman’s ring, “oh, how nice….for a starter ring.”
- mereditor
  
  WOW! A starter ring? Nice lady.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000519232035 Ziva Goldman

I’m not for the flashy stuff and only wanted a simple gold band when we got married. One of my sisters commented “Is that it?!?” to it’s simplicity. We had an issue with the engagement ring, so it was not on my finger during the actual ceremony. I now have a lovely marquis cut emerald surrounded by diamonds which I absolutely love and wouldn’t trade for anything! When a friend became engaged, she got a lovely solitaire diamond. I made the horrible mistake of saying “Oh my, look how small it is!” It was not meant to be a snark on the diamond itself, but I was just taken aback by how skinny her fingers were and how small the actual ring was (probably a size 1)… the whole thing could have fit through my ring, a size 10. I apologized profusely, which may have made it worse! It truly was a beautiful ring and that’s all that matters!
summercolours

My friend asked to see my ring, asked how much it costs, if it came with a cert. When I said it didn’t, she said maybe it’s costume jewelry. I was offended and one day told her how I felt. She then explained that she meant to ask if it was one of those designer jewelry, where the design matters more than the quality of the diamond. Whatever.
- mereditor
  
  UG! And her backpedaling attempt was pretty lame, too.
jane

An old tradition in my family is rubies instead of diamonds (a much older tradition than diamonds) and everyone keeps commenting no diamond means a messy divorce.
Well there has never been a divorce in my family and I’m so happy to be marrying someone who respects my family.
Seriously though. Who tells someone they will have a messy divorce at an engagement party.
- http://twitter.com/mereditor Meredith Bodgas
  
  Only someone who’s insecure about her own marriage/marriage prospects or is totally stupid and insensitive would mention that anywhere, let alone at an engagement party. (I love that family tradition, by the way!)
Courtney

I got engaged to my husband back in our very first year of college, back before anything was complicated and before we cared about what people thought. I proposed to him using the ring he gave me on Christmas (just a little claddagh ring) and I buried it in the snow and made him go on a scavenger hunt to find it and it lead him to the deck outside on of the college houses with the back being a slope covered in snow reading out the words “will you marry me” ..took me all morning with a couple of friends. Point was, I didn’t need a flipping ring to know he was the guy I wanted forever. No one believed we were engaged since I didn’t have a big rock so he bought me a huge white topaz ring (I didn’t like diamonds, and what 18 year old can buy those!?) and it was stunning. Then came the remarks: ”yeah like he afforded that thing’ and ‘where did he steal that from’ but then things started getting hurtful like ”guess you were too young and didn’t realize he didn’t want to marry you. Take the hint” and ”that thing isn’t even real.” The most hurtful though was from my own mother when she asked me if it was cubic zirconium. What the heck is wrong with white topaz?! I wanted a clear ring and this one shines a very pale ice blue color on a nice simple plane white gold ban. I don’t even bother wearing it anymore. I’ve only been married two years (we married 1 year after college). I stopped when the comments just turned to stares. Next to my diamond wedding band he got me it just looks subpar and people would always ask why I got a knock off instead of just going with a smaller nicer looking diamond. I hate people.