5 Reasons to Get Pregnant on Your Honeymoon–and 5 Not to

When I got married at 25, I couldn’t think of a single pro to trying for a baby immediately after our wedding. Now that I’m 30, I’m starting to get it (as did half the newly pregnant women I know). Still, if you’re thinking about getting knocked up days after I do–or if you’re not dead-set against it–consider the following. Continue reading

Marriage First: There’s a Clear Breadwinner in the Relationship

Despite our very different careers, Paul and I were neck-and-neck with our salaries since we joined the workforce in 2004. Until last year. Continue reading

Can You Really Ever Spend Too Much Time with Your Spouse?

That's Bert dancing on the left. Just kidding; he wasn't invited to this happy hour.

The other day, like many other Thursday nights, Paul and I went to a bar with our friends. It just so happens that all of those friends are Paul’s coworkers. Which led one of his colleagues, with whom we’re not buddies and to whom we weren’t talking, to accuse Paul of the following. Continue reading

Attention Married People: Don’t Pose for a Photo Like THIS

This past Friday, Paul went to his friend’s birthday party. I wasn’t feeling great (I’ll blame the free buffet at the Chinese New Year celebration in our apartment complex), so I stayed in. A pal of the birthday boy went around taking pictures of the revelers, including this unfortunate one of my husband. Continue reading

I Married My Middle-School Bully

Everyone who knew me at Paulo Intermediate School knew at least two things about me: that I had big teeth (still do) and that I had a big crush on my classmate, Paul. Telling everyone I encountered about the object of my affection embarrassed Paul; he’d gone through physical puberty before his brain had a chance to catch up. In retaliation for the humiliation, and probably in an effort to inspire me to move on to the next poor, unsuspecting sixth-grader, Paul teased me mercilessly. Continue reading

The Time Someone Died on Our Valentine’s Date

After a Valentine’s dinner at a Chili’s when we were freshmen in college, Paul and I decided to step things up for our sophomore-year Valentine’s date. We found a more upscale restaurant in Boston that we could still afford and Paul even agreed to see the romantic comedy of my choosing at a nearby theater. But fate had other plans. Continue reading

The 5 Wedding Questions I Get Asked All the Time

Having worked for wedding magazines and websites and blogged about weddings, I’ve learned a few things along the way. My friends know this. My Twitter followers do, too. And because the world of weddings can be downright confusing, they often turn to me when they have a planning conundrum or an etiquette question. Some queries pop up more than others. So consider this the FAQs page on my site for brides and wedding guests. Continue reading

The Absolute Silliest Reasons for Which I’ve Gotten Mad at My Husband

I don’t enjoy being angry. I much prefer to talk about butterflies and sing. Truly. But when you’re with someone for 17 years, you’re bound to get mad about something. I try to limit livid responses to only Paul’s most abhorrent actions. Still, on occasion, I’ve become furious over admittedly stupid things. Here are the highlights. Continue reading

6 Ways to Really Burn Stress on Your Honeymoon

No, I don't suggest de-stressing by playing chess with a bad sunburn, as Paul did on our honeymoon.

Maybe you’ll be one of the lucky ones for whom wedding planning is a breeze. Dream venue? Open on your date–and for half the regular price! Family drama? Nope, both sides meet to join hands and sing Cumbaya on a monthly basis. More likely, though, there will be some friction and less-than-ideal circumstances as you plan your party. But the honeymoon you take after you get hitched is the perfect opportunity to send that stress packing, but not in the ways you’d think. Continue reading