Tag Archives: married life
Uh-Oh. Paul and I Aren’t Sleeping in the Same Bed Anymore
Spoiler Alert: Almost Everyone on āBridezillas: Where Are They Nowā Is Divorced
While we were planning our wedding and for the couple years after when my livelihood depended on writing for brides, I watched a lot of wedding TV shows, including the weekly train wreck known as Bridezillas. These days, Iām more likely to flip to HGTV on a weekend morning to catch house-hunting shows. Today, though, when Love It or List It went to commercial, I changed to We TV (hey, I get to watch this stuff only when Paulās sleepingāIāve got to take advantage!). And while what I saw shouldnāt have surprised me, it made me sad. Continue reading
5 Reasons to Get Pregnant on Your Honeymoon–and 5 Not to
When I got married at 25, I couldn’t think of a single pro to trying for a baby immediately after our wedding. Now that I’m 30, I’m starting to get it (as did half the newly pregnant women I know). Still, if you’re thinking about getting knocked up days after I do–or if you’re not dead-set against it–consider the following. Continue reading
The Absolute Silliest Reasons for Which I’ve Gotten Mad at My Husband
I don’t enjoy being angry. I much prefer to talk about butterflies and sing. Truly. But when you’re with someone for 17 years, you’re bound to get mad about something. I try to limit livid responses to only Paul’s most abhorrent actions. Still, on occasion, I’ve become furious over admittedly stupid things. Here are the highlights. Continue reading
Lamenting the “No Spouses” Rule for Company Holiday Parties
Last week, I asked one of Paul’s co-workers what she’s wearing to their company’s semi-formal holiday party. She went on to describe two beautiful-sounding options and asked me to help her choose. Then, she asked what I was wearing to the event. “Oh, I’m not invited,” I said sadly. Shock crossed her face. Here’s why I suspect that happened. Continue reading
Marriage First: Not Sitting Together on a Flight
Paul and I love traveling, so we’ve made it a priority to fly to many destinations together since college. While we’re still not experts at climbing over each other when we need to use the plane’s potty, we much prefer awkwardly stepping over one another to getting personal with other passengers. And we usually pre-load our laptop with movies and funny clips to watch to pass the time on each flight. So when a recent flight was canceled and we were squeezed onto an alternate and soon-departing flight, we weren’t thrilled that our seats were many, many rows apart. Continue reading
Marriage First: Accompanying Your Husband to the ER
At 6:45 a.m. on Wednesday, Paul touched my arm and shook me a little. I woke up to see him sitting up in bed, wide awake, with his glasses on, a startling sight given that Paul usually wears contacts and doesn’t use corrective lenses of any sort when he’s sleeping. Continue reading
Marriage First: Losing a Loved One
My grandmother had been suffering from Parkinson’s disease for decades. And this past Wednesday, June 20th, she stopped suffering. Continue reading
Marriage First: Your Husband Does Something TOTALLY Out of Character
Paul’s a fairly predictable person–or maybe it’s just that I’ve known him for 18 years, so I can predict most of his moves. But I have to say: This past Friday night he did something I didn’t think he’d do if his life depended on it. And it was really strange. Continue reading